Reclaiming Focus: Resolutions for a Distraction-Free Life

As we welcome a new year, many of us feel a pull to set resolutions that improve our lives—whether it’s exercising more, eating healthier, or spending more time with loved ones. Creating achievable resolutions each year has made a huge impact in my life. I have created a discipline of stacking habits over the years that have allowed me to move toward a healthy and well-lived lifestyle. But I still struggle with owning my attention. Carrying around a device where anyone in the world, including automated marketing campaigns and push notifications, can instantly get a hold of me is not a path to a peaceful and engaged life. In our increasingly distracted world, taking control of my attention is my focus for 2025.

Our focus is our most precious and exploited resource. You can always make more money, but none of us can make more time. Moreover, the quality of the time we spend is diminished when we are distracted. Social media platforms, streaming services, and news outlets compete for every spare moment of our day. Remote work and smart devices have allowed our employment to bleed over into our personal lives. This constant tug on our attention not only leaves us more distracted but also diminishes our happiness, creativity, and ability to connect meaningfully with others.

The Attention Economy and Its Impact on Happiness

The attention economy thrives on keeping us engaged as long as possible, often using algorithms designed to exploit our psychological vulnerabilities. Endless scrolling, autoplay features, and personalized recommendations may seem harmless, but they encourage habits of distraction and impulse. The average person spends over 2 hours daily on social media—time that could be spent pursuing passions, deepening relationships, or simply resting. Remember, if a company is offering you a service for free, then your attention is actually the product they are selling.

The result? A growing body of research shows that excessive screen time and fragmented attention are linked to increased stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction. When our days are constantly interrupted by notifications and the lure of digital content, we lose the ability to be present, engage deeply, and experience the joy of truly immersive experiences.

Resolutions for Regaining Control of Your Focus

Here are some practical and intentional resolutions to help reclaim your attention and improve your quality of life:

1. Set Digital Boundaries

Commit to creating a healthier relationship with technology. Use tools like screen time trackers or app blockers to limit distractions. For example, set specific times to check emails and social media instead of grazing on them throughout the day. Turn off unnecessary notifications to reduce interruptions and regain mental clarity. You can even change the color of your phone to greyscale to make it less attractive. I will be changing the color and setting 10 minute limits for social media and news on my iPhone.

2. Prioritize Real-Life Connections

Make a conscious effort to prioritize in-person interactions over digital ones. Plan regular meetups with friends or family and keep your phone out of reach during these moments. The quality of your relationships can improve significantly when you give people your undivided attention. These do not have to be incremental to your life if your already have a busy schedule. However, it does mean making the time more intentional by engaging with those around you rather than scrolling through your phone.

3. Create Tech-Free Zones

Designate areas of your home as technology-free spaces. For instance, keep phones and tablets out of the bedroom to improve sleep quality, or establish device-free dinners to enhance family bonding. We have had a no-phones rule at dinner time for years. It’s easier said than done, as simple things like looking up the weather for tomorrow can come up in conversation, but you can see someone’s presence fallout of the room when they check for an answer, but get pulled away by other apps.

4. Rediscover Hobbies and Passions

Replace passive scrolling with activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. I often hear people say they don’t have the time for themselves, their hobbies and their passions. If you’re one of these people, I would ask you to take a hard look in the mirror. If you are spending more than an hour on your phone or watching TV, you have the time to pursue something more meaningful. Whether it’s learning a new instrument, gardening, or joining a local sports club, engaging in hobbies helps you reconnect with your passions and feel more accomplished. These skills and activities compound your sense of well-being overtime in a way social media never will.

5. Audit Your Digital Diet

Evaluate the content you consume and its impact on your mood and mindset. Unfollow accounts that make you feel anxious or inadequate, and instead, follow those that inspire, educate, or uplift you. Be selective about what deserves your attention.

This is a huge one for me. The 2024 election cycle was heated and reinforced a number of echo-chambers I was already a part of. I have deeply held convictions about how we should move our country forward, but I don’t need to know or engages with the outrage de jour that the news channels want to serve me. I have unfollowed the bulk of political commentary. If there are accounts, pages or channels you engage with regularly that raise your blood pressure, I encourage you to do the same.

The Reward of Reclaimed Focus

By taking control of your focus, I hope to discover more time, energy, and mental clarity to pursue what truly matters. In joining me, you’ll build habits that nurture happiness, productivity, and deeper relationships, transforming how you experience daily life. We are blessed with the freedom to choose to pay attention to. Actively seeking out the good in life leads to exponentially better results for yourself and the communities around you.

As you think about setting a New Year’s resolution, consider this: attention is the foundation of a fulfilling life. Choose to spend it wisely.

The #1 New Year’s Resolution that No One is Making

It’s the time of year that many of us lay out our goals and plans for the coming year. Half of these resolutions will focus on fitness, particularly weight loss. Over a third will focus on finances. The remainder is scattered about several other factors, including mental health. Achieving lasting change in your life starts from the inside, so attacking fitness and finances before acknowledging what’s going on in your head is backwards.

Of all mental health actions, cultivating gratitude has been shown the most effective way to broaden and build your perspective and move toward a fulfilled life.

The modern world was not designed with your wellbeing in mind. The never ending notifications, emails, instant messages, 24 hour news cycle and “continuing watching in 3, 2, 1…” has left us in a more distracted, more stressed and less stable mental state than at any point in modern history. Our religious, political and social institutions are falling apart. Families and friends are held physically at a distance and thriving communities with deep relationships seem absent from the lives of many Americans. The state of affairs have cause the Surgeon General to issue a mental health advisory earlier this year.

At the same time, the emerging field of positive psychology is beginning to unlock the lifestyles and habits that lead to a fulfilled and well lived life. Of these, researchers are finding that gratitude is one of the most impactful ways to manage the difficult situations and times of trouble. Barbara Frederickson introduced the “Broaden and Build” theory, which has implications both for personal and professional use. In her theory, she outlines how positive emotion is the predecessor of creativity and collaboration. Her work lists love, joy, serenity, gratitude, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration and awe as the ten major positive emotions.

While we all want to experience positive emotions, we cannot simply turn on a switch to alter our feelings. Most of these ten emotions come on their own as unpredictable responses to situations and relationships. We have all felt joy at some point, but I cannot tell myself to feel joy right now in this moment. Gratitude is an outlier in these emotions, because we can consciously think about what we are grateful for, and the feeling of gratitude often follows the thought.

Gratitude, described as the heartfelt appreciation for what you have received, is a powerful emotion that can significantly enhance our overall wellbeing. When we consciously cultivate gratitude in our lives, it not only transforms our perspective but also positively impacts our mental, emotional, and even physical health. It also increases our ability to perform professionally.

Here are five effective ways to cultivate gratitude and why it benefits your life:

1. Gratitude Journaling

It may seem too simple, but the most effective psychological intervention happened when people were asked to write down three things they were thankful for at the end of each day along with a brief description of why they were thankful. Taking a few moments each day to write down things we are grateful for will create a profound shift in your mindset if you practice it consistently. By acknowledging and recording even the simplest blessings, we train our minds to focus on the positives in life. This practice helps us navigate challenges with a more optimistic outlook, reducing stress and fostering resilience.

2. Reflecting on Challenges

Gratitude doesn’t ignore difficulties but reframes them. Reflecting on past challenges and acknowledging the lessons learned or the personal growth attained from adversity can foster a sense of gratitude for the strength gained and the opportunity for resilience. It also gives us the ability to look ahead at difficult situations on the horizon, acknowledge the difficulty, and yet, be thankful for the people who will help us through the experience.

3. Tell Others You Appreciate Them

Actively expressing gratitude to others strengthens relationships and deepens connections. Simple gestures like saying “thank you,” writing notes of appreciation, or verbalizing gratitude can create a ripple effect of positivity, fostering a sense of belonging and reinforcing social bonds.

4. Seek Out Novelty

New experiences can elicit a host of emotions, helps us break the monotony and moves our attention toward openness and acceptance. Being in a different situation helps you notice and appreciate things you may have otherwise overlooked, thereby enhancing your capacity to be aware of what you are grateful for.

5. Volunteer and Perform Acts of Kindness

Contributing to others’ wellbeing through acts of kindness or volunteering can instill a deep sense of gratitude. By witnessing the impact of our actions on others’ lives, we gain a heightened appreciation for our own blessings and become more empathetic towards others’ struggles.

Why Gratitude Benefits Your Wellbeing:

Cultivating gratitude isn’t just a nice sentiment; it has scientifically proven benefits for our overall wellbeing:

  • Improved Mental Health: Grateful individuals tend to experience reduced symptoms of depression and anxiety. The act of appreciating what one has mitigates negative emotions and enhances emotional resilience.
  • Physical Health: Gratitude practices have been linked to improved sleep, lower blood pressure, and a strengthened immune system. The positive emotions associated with gratitude contribute to better physical health.
  • Enhanced Relationships: Expressing gratitude fosters stronger interpersonal relationships, creating a positive environment for both parties involved. This can lead to increased happiness and a greater sense of fulfillment.
  • Resilience and Coping Mechanisms: Grateful individuals are better equipped to cope with life’s challenges. They tend to have a more adaptive mindset, finding solutions and opportunities even in difficult situations.

Cultivating gratitude isn’t about ignoring life’s complexities but rather embracing them with a perspective that acknowledges the positives amidst the chaos. By integrating gratitude into our daily lives, we can experience profound shifts in our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, leading to a more fulfilling and happier existence.

Gratitude is not a silver bullet to all of our problems, but it is a powerful step within our control to shine a light onto the good things in our lives, and to shine that light onto the people around us.

If you’re looking for a New Year’s resolution and do not already have an intentional gratitude practice, you may find this is the missing key that unlocks a host of hidden potential.

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