The #1 New Year’s Resolution that No One is Making

It’s the time of year that many of us lay out our goals and plans for the coming year. Half of these resolutions will focus on fitness, particularly weight loss. Over a third will focus on finances. The remainder is scattered about several other factors, including mental health. Achieving lasting change in your life starts from the inside, so attacking fitness and finances before acknowledging what’s going on in your head is backwards.

Of all mental health actions, cultivating gratitude has been shown the most effective way to broaden and build your perspective and move toward a fulfilled life.

The modern world was not designed with your wellbeing in mind. The never ending notifications, emails, instant messages, 24 hour news cycle and “continuing watching in 3, 2, 1…” has left us in a more distracted, more stressed and less stable mental state than at any point in modern history. Our religious, political and social institutions are falling apart. Families and friends are held physically at a distance and thriving communities with deep relationships seem absent from the lives of many Americans. The state of affairs have cause the Surgeon General to issue a mental health advisory earlier this year.

At the same time, the emerging field of positive psychology is beginning to unlock the lifestyles and habits that lead to a fulfilled and well lived life. Of these, researchers are finding that gratitude is one of the most impactful ways to manage the difficult situations and times of trouble. Barbara Frederickson introduced the “Broaden and Build” theory, which has implications both for personal and professional use. In her theory, she outlines how positive emotion is the predecessor of creativity and collaboration. Her work lists love, joy, serenity, gratitude, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration and awe as the ten major positive emotions.

While we all want to experience positive emotions, we cannot simply turn on a switch to alter our feelings. Most of these ten emotions come on their own as unpredictable responses to situations and relationships. We have all felt joy at some point, but I cannot tell myself to feel joy right now in this moment. Gratitude is an outlier in these emotions, because we can consciously think about what we are grateful for, and the feeling of gratitude often follows the thought.

Gratitude, described as the heartfelt appreciation for what you have received, is a powerful emotion that can significantly enhance our overall wellbeing. When we consciously cultivate gratitude in our lives, it not only transforms our perspective but also positively impacts our mental, emotional, and even physical health. It also increases our ability to perform professionally.

Here are five effective ways to cultivate gratitude and why it benefits your life:

1. Gratitude Journaling

It may seem too simple, but the most effective psychological intervention happened when people were asked to write down three things they were thankful for at the end of each day along with a brief description of why they were thankful. Taking a few moments each day to write down things we are grateful for will create a profound shift in your mindset if you practice it consistently. By acknowledging and recording even the simplest blessings, we train our minds to focus on the positives in life. This practice helps us navigate challenges with a more optimistic outlook, reducing stress and fostering resilience.

2. Reflecting on Challenges

Gratitude doesn’t ignore difficulties but reframes them. Reflecting on past challenges and acknowledging the lessons learned or the personal growth attained from adversity can foster a sense of gratitude for the strength gained and the opportunity for resilience. It also gives us the ability to look ahead at difficult situations on the horizon, acknowledge the difficulty, and yet, be thankful for the people who will help us through the experience.

3. Tell Others You Appreciate Them

Actively expressing gratitude to others strengthens relationships and deepens connections. Simple gestures like saying “thank you,” writing notes of appreciation, or verbalizing gratitude can create a ripple effect of positivity, fostering a sense of belonging and reinforcing social bonds.

4. Seek Out Novelty

New experiences can elicit a host of emotions, helps us break the monotony and moves our attention toward openness and acceptance. Being in a different situation helps you notice and appreciate things you may have otherwise overlooked, thereby enhancing your capacity to be aware of what you are grateful for.

5. Volunteer and Perform Acts of Kindness

Contributing to others’ wellbeing through acts of kindness or volunteering can instill a deep sense of gratitude. By witnessing the impact of our actions on others’ lives, we gain a heightened appreciation for our own blessings and become more empathetic towards others’ struggles.

Why Gratitude Benefits Your Wellbeing:

Cultivating gratitude isn’t just a nice sentiment; it has scientifically proven benefits for our overall wellbeing:

  • Improved Mental Health: Grateful individuals tend to experience reduced symptoms of depression and anxiety. The act of appreciating what one has mitigates negative emotions and enhances emotional resilience.
  • Physical Health: Gratitude practices have been linked to improved sleep, lower blood pressure, and a strengthened immune system. The positive emotions associated with gratitude contribute to better physical health.
  • Enhanced Relationships: Expressing gratitude fosters stronger interpersonal relationships, creating a positive environment for both parties involved. This can lead to increased happiness and a greater sense of fulfillment.
  • Resilience and Coping Mechanisms: Grateful individuals are better equipped to cope with life’s challenges. They tend to have a more adaptive mindset, finding solutions and opportunities even in difficult situations.

Cultivating gratitude isn’t about ignoring life’s complexities but rather embracing them with a perspective that acknowledges the positives amidst the chaos. By integrating gratitude into our daily lives, we can experience profound shifts in our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, leading to a more fulfilling and happier existence.

Gratitude is not a silver bullet to all of our problems, but it is a powerful step within our control to shine a light onto the good things in our lives, and to shine that light onto the people around us.

If you’re looking for a New Year’s resolution and do not already have an intentional gratitude practice, you may find this is the missing key that unlocks a host of hidden potential.

The Top Ten Ways to Improve Wellbeing in Modern Life

In the fast-paced world of modern society, it can be difficult to maintain a sense of wellbeing. We strive for success in our careers and personal lives while managing our time between social engagements, family commitments, and personal hobbies. It is important to prioritize our mental, emotional, and physical health to live a balanced and fulfilling life. Here are some best practices for wellbeing in modern society:

1. Prioritize self-care

Self-care refers to the actions individuals take to care for their physical, mental, and emotional needs. This includes activities such as getting enough sleep, eating nourishing meals, practicing relaxation techniques, and engaging in exercise. By prioritizing self-care, individuals can better manage stress, reduce anxiety, and improve overall health.

2. Connect with others

Human connection is an essential aspect of wellbeing. In today’s world, technology has made it easy to stay connected with friends and family through social media, texts, and video calls. However, it is important to prioritize face-to-face interactions as well. Spending time with loved ones in-person can improve mood, reduce stress, and foster a sense of belonging.

3. Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being present and fully engaged in the moment. It involves paying attention to thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judgment. Practicing mindfulness can help with stress management, emotional regulation, and cultivating a sense of inner peace.

4. Limit screen time

Technology has revolutionized the way we live but it is important to recognize the impact it can have on wellbeing. The blue light emitted from screens can interfere with sleep patterns and excessive use can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnection. Setting boundaries and limiting screen time can help individuals prioritize other aspects of their lives such as socializing, exercise, and self-care.

5. Engage in physical activity

Exercise not only improves physical health but also has numerous benefits for mental health. Regular physical activity has been found to reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, improve cognitive function, and boost self-esteem. Incorporating physical activity into daily routines can promote overall health and wellbeing.

6. Practice gratitude

Gratitude is the practice of recognizing and appreciating the good in one’s life. Practicing gratitude can help individuals focus on positive experiences, reduce feelings of negativity, and cultivate a sense of contentment. Daily practices such as journaling or reflecting on what one is grateful for can promote a positive mindset.

7. Set boundaries

Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining wellbeing. Boundaries refer to the guidelines an individual sets for themselves in order to protect their mental, emotional, and physical health. This can include saying no to excessive commitments, limiting exposure to toxic relationships, and prioritizing self-care.

8. Seek professional help

Sometimes, despite one’s best efforts to prioritize wellbeing, individuals may struggle with mental health concerns. Seeking professional help can provide additional support and resources. Therapists, counselors, and other mental health professionals can offer guidance, coping strategies, and treatment options as needed.

9. Cultivate a sense of purpose

Having a sense of purpose can promote overall wellbeing. This involves identifying one’s values and goals and working towards fulfilling them. Individuals who have a strong sense of purpose may experience increased motivation, goal attainment, and a sense of fulfillment.

10. Be kind to oneself

Finally, it is important to be kind to oneself when pursuing wellbeing. Adopting a mindset of self-compassion can reduce self-criticism, increase resilience, and promote a sense of self-worth. Practicing self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, recognizing one’s humanity, and acknowledging that setbacks and struggles are a normal part of the human experience.

Prioritizing wellbeing in modern society involves a multifaceted approach. By incorporating these best practices into daily routines, individuals can promote physical, mental, and emotional health, and live more fulfilling lives.

The End of Productivity

What happens when producing more yields less satisfaction? The rules we have been operating under may no longer apply. Business schools teach maximization, efficiency and optimality, but productivity increases have yielded a negative happiness curve.

Economically, we are not prepared to deal with this. Our system is predicated on endless growth. Our leaders preach it and we are trained to believe it. Produce more and we will be better off. It is quickly becoming a myth in the modern world.

For the first time in history, we have more than enough, everything we need and most things we want. Having more will not help us. Bigger waistlines, bigger debts and bigger commutes show that more is not better. Psychologically, we acknowledging we have enough is critical to our wellbeing.

At the same time, we will need a new economic system to support the new reality of enough. Our economy will not continue to grow forever. It will flatline. And when it does, we should not panic.

We should realize it is the natural result of having enough, and that shared prosperity is the path to a healthy community. We should embrace a future where the growth we seek lies in the growth of communal wellbeing, rather than the growth of an economic bottom line.

The age of productivity is over. We are now in the era of wellbeing.When you realize you have enough, you are free to live and to be. I am thankful to live in these times, to be awake to realize I have enough to live, and enough to meet the challenges of tomorrow.

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